Unique Challenges of Being a Working Mom

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Being a working mom can be one of the most rewarding things in the world. Showing your kids that woman can be successful and have a career can be hugely impactful on their development and view on the world. However, being a working mother can be very difficult as well. It can be filled with stress, a lack of sleep, messes, and guilt.

Your clothes will almost always be dirty

There’s no doubt about it, children are messy. Whether it’s spit-up, milk, sauce, peanut butter or other bodily secretions there’s a good chance that you will have something somewhere on you. Trying to get the kids ready and out of the house while simultaneously trying to get yourself ready means that you will probably show up to the office dirty. It’s always a good idea to have an extra outfit in the office incase one day the mess is really bad. For those days when you can handle the mess, carry a to-go stain remover in your purse to give you a little extra help.

Nothing ever goes as planned

In the mornings it’s not unusual for things to be chaotic. Putting your kids to bed may take longer than expected. Basically, with kids you can’t plan anything and expect it to go smoothly. If you have an important meeting at work or you have to do something that you can’t be late for be sure to leave yourself extra time.

You will almost always be running late

Going along with the fact that nothing ever goes as planned is that you’ll almost always be running late to everything. Your child may want to switch their shoes or might refuse to eat what you’ve made. No matter what the situation, something always comes up that takes up more time than you thought it would.

Mommy guilt is real

Every mom feels guilty about being at work and not being with their kids. Some moms may feel jealous of stay-at-home moms. But just because you feel this way doesn’t mean that what you’re doing is bad. It’s normal and healthy. You might feel fine one moment and the next find yourself crying because you miss your kids. This is still healthy and normal. But what you really need to think about is why you made the decision to be a working mom. Keep thinking about the positives and how you will get to see your kids in just a few hours. While the mommy guilt might not necessarily go away, you might be able to do things that could make it a bit easier to manage the guilty feeling.

While being a working mom does come with its challenges, that doesn’t mean that it’s not worth it. The positives outweigh the challenges. It’s important to take every day as it comes and enjoy the time you have with your kids.

The Working Mother: Labor After Labor

Being a mother is often considered the hardest job there is. The constant care, sleepless nights and physical strain would be enough to make any reconsider the stresses of their own work. But how do you juggle the full-time job of caring for your children and working for a living? This delicate balancing act is being performed by women all over the globe, and it’s not an easy one. While certain workplaces afford you the ability to manage your own schedule, far too many women are not as in control of their own workday. Leaving them to manage what little time they have with the family to the best of their ability. Here are some quick ways a modern mom can manage the madness of her day.
Take advantage of your technology. With so many mobile services running the gamut from grocery delivery to remote control laundry, whatever time you can save while on the move must be taken advantage of. With the advent of remotely operated appliances, you could start any number of chores on the way home to save a few extra minutes for your family.
If you don’t have full control over your schedule, practice negotiating. A mom on the move needs to find help wherever she can. Whether that be squeezing a few spare moments out of her work schedule, or finding friends to help watch the family while at work, a positive negotiating attitude can mean the difference between suffering your schedule, and living with it.
Negotiating can help tremendously with finding assistance around the house or at work. If something needs doing and you haven’t the time, there are plenty of services that offer cheap help in your local area. TaskRabbit is a great way to handle mundane tasks for a minimal fee, and free up more time for the kids.
Being a working mother is far from easy. However, what some call a thankless job is anything but. A family needs a strong foundation to thrive, and compared to a working mother, nothing is stronger. An unshakeable warrior for her family, the working mom handles both positions with a poise and determination unmatched in today’s world.

US Working Mothers: A Video on Daily Struggles

Why Shared Female Workspaces Are Building a Better Network

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Working from home offers a lot of freedom, but it can feel understandably isolating and distracting for people who thrive in collaborative work environments. The typical work environment offers a structure and a general hum of productivity than can be helpful for those even without the typical 9 to 5. That’s why co-working spaces were born.

These shared professional workspaces are a great way to connect businesspeople, entrepreneurs, and creative work teams in a collaborative environment. But for some women, the typical male-dominated, competitive workspaces with lots of brick and concrete aren’t an environment conducive to supporting their best work. For these women, the nearest Starbucks has historically been the default, but a more female-focused co-working space like Hera Hub might be a more attractive option.

Hera Hub, a shared workspace built specifically for female entrepreneurs, features a spa-like atmosphere: soft music, candles, fountains, nice lighting and a decidedly female clientele. Although the business remains open to men, the goal is to create an environment that is attractive to women and encourages female networking and collaboration.

Hera Hub, named after the Greek Goddess of women, offers a professional environment where professional women can work flexible hours, meet clients outside of a coffee shop, and access that sense of collaborative community that they crave. According to an internal Hera Hub survey, the members feel 60% more productive when they work in the shared workspace compared to working at home by themselves.

The business’ goal is to open 200 franchise locations, both in the US and abroad, in order to help more than 20,000 women launch their own businesses over the next five years. It’s about giving professional women a comfortable environment to achieve their goals and dreams in the business world. Hera Hub has already opened three locations in San Diego and is set to open its first in Washington, DC location next month.

The Not So Super Nanny Review

Erica Yitzhak Knows how hard it is to find good help

Erica Yitzhak Knows how hard it is to find good help

While scouring the internet looking for “Nanny Nightmare” stories I was able to stumble upon an article written by Katie Wallace entitled “The Not So Super Nannies” and her experience on trying to find the right nanny to fit in with her family to take care of her newborn child. She talks about how she “wanted Mary Poppins to float down from the sky and land on my doorstep” with an offer that she thought she couldn’t refuse, allowing her to return to the workforce much sooner than she had anticipated.

Katie tried to stay a step ahead in the game, by trying to get a plan in place while she was pregnant with her child in the summer. She realized that she was going to not be able to get her kid into the top day-care centers in Los Angeles, so she enlisted the help of her mother and three agencies to try to find the right nanny for her kids. During her two-week mad quest, she interviewed dozens of candidates before finally deciding to narrow her choice down to one nanny.

Preparing to offer the candidate the job, Katie asked her if there was anything she might like in the house as far as snacks are concerned. The candidate had something different in mind, giving her a full on grocery list that included  “Sanka coffee, white bread, frozen waffles, Lucky Charms, etc,” (Wallace, The Not-So-Super Nannies). But that isn’t all. The agency that put the candidate up informed Katie that the nanny has had a DUI in the previous months. They mentioned it because they do not screen potential clients until after they are about to be hired. In trying to cover their own skin, the agency claimed that the nanny was very “very forthcoming with us. She told us right from the start,” (Wallace, The Not-So-Super Nannies). If that was the verdict, why didn’t they inform her until after she was ready to hire her? Seems a little fishy to me.

Katie, understandably, was really peeved that the agency withheld this important information and didn’t bother to tell her about it. She makes a great point that it wasn’t like the incident happened when she was young and immature, but only happened a few months prior, and this was someone that she was going to trust to take care of her newborn son. She wrestled with this decision because it seemed like her son had already taken a liking to her, but Katie went with her gut instincts and decided to not hire her.

Tales of Negligent Caretakers

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Sad Child

While searching the web I have run into a slew of horror stories about nannies that will shock you. It’s always nerve-racking to leave your child in the care of someone else, but after these stories you will think twice about who you are letting raise and care for you child. These stories of law-breaking, abusive and negligent caretakers explain why it is a scary world out there. And these nannies were caught red handed in the act.

A North Carolina mother hired a nanny after her twins were prematurely born and not healthy enough to go into daycare. Upon hiring the nanny, Lindsay Addison installed a hidden nanny cam that was disguised as a clock to monitor her children while she was at work. But what she ended up seeing was disgusting. The hired nanny was seen loosely carrying the 7-month-olds under her arms, letting them dangle upside down. The nanny was fired immediately and was charged with two counts of child abuse. The said nanny eventually entered an Alford plea in court, which “does not admit guilt but acknowledges that there was enough evidence to convict her of the charges.”

In Jacksonville, Florida, parents of two toddlers decided to install a nanny cam in their after coming home and finding one of the two toddlers had a black eye. The nanny at the time said that she could not explain where the black eye had come from. The Jacksonville parents decided to fire their nanny of two years and later watched the tape from the nanny cam. What they saw was disturbing to say the least. The parents watched in horror as they saw the nanny picked up and slung their child into the playpen, was hit in the face with a ball, slapped, hit with a towel, swatted at and kicked. Luckily the child only received a bruise and a split lip. The nanny was sentenced to 8 years in prison.

Working Mom Complex

Working Mother on the go

Working Mother on the go

So many women suffer from a huge complex, that is stemmed from being a working mother. And despite the decades that women have been breaking through the glass ceiling in the corporate world and rising through the ranks, many women still feel like this working mother complex is making their family life very fragile.

In a recent study on this matter, 40 percent of respondents to the General Social Survey, conducted by Pew in 2009, believe that a mothers working habits were detrimental to the upbringing of the child or children in that home. That margin has risen a whopping 8 points from a similar survey that was conducted in 1994. And according to an even more recent Pew survey, it was found that a majority of Americans believe that it is harder to raise kids when the mother works from outside of the home, even though the working woman or mother makes up to 40 percent of the family’s earnings. These stats clearly show why working mothers complex comes into fruition. Because of a woman’s right and need to work (ie. financial stability for the family), makes them feel terribly guilty that they are “abandoning” their children by going to work outside of the home. Which in turn, sends a message to working mother that you can not be a good mother if you are not working from home.

It is completely different to raise your children when you work is inside the home, versus economy today, which often forces both parents to work outside of their actual home. There is also far less family and community support for working mothers than there has been in generations past. It seems that today women romanticize an elaborate fantasy history that never truly existed, a fictional world where mothers spent their whole days in charge with the sole task of nurturing young children’s minds and preparing wholesome meals. That is the stuff of women’s magazines over the last half century and not actual reality of the world that we live in today.

If you buy into the fantasy that once there was a utopia where women cared for babies all day without any other sort of job other than “housewife” duties, then it becomes very difficult to live each day in the real world, where you’re supposed drop your kids off at daycare or pick them from after-school care after a long day. If you spend your whole work day feeling guilty for working, even if you know in your mind and heart and bank account that you have to work in order for you and your kids to live comfortably, it can be difficult to ignore society’s stereotypes that target mothers who work, thinking that a mother who works is a lesser parent.