Working Moms

Erica YitzhakThe phrase “it takes a village to raise a child,” is no less true now than it was decades ago. Raising a family can be equal parts challenging and fulfilling, but where do you turn when the village is empty? Working mothers have to make due with an additional obstacle, though. Raising a family and pursuing a career; two jobs, one without compensation. But is there an unseen benefit that being a working mother can bring to the table? A recent Harvard study seems to think so.

Studies at Harvard Business school have uncovered an interesting trend between mothers who work, and their children. Surprisingly, daughters of working mothers are more likely to earn supervisor roles at their jobs. Additionally, they earn 6% more than the daughters of mothers who stayed home. Sons of working mothers spent an additional hour a week caring for members of the household, and 17 minutes more on chores. Coupled with a study conducted in 2010, children with working mothers displayed no worse academic or behavioral problems than kids with stay-at-home parents.

While never easy to leave your children at home, parents that work encourage children to instinctively rely on themselves for care, and teach them the importance of responsibility and timeliness. With the majority of American mothers working, this research conclusively shows not only a lack of detriment, but a hidden benefit to being a working mother. Demonstrating a positive outlook with hard work, determination and dedication instills an attitude in children that will follow them into their professional lives.

It’s never easy to leave your kids. Spending time at work can feel like a wedge, driving you apart from your children, and siphoning away what little time there is before they’re all grown up. Remember, you’re not robbing them of a mother, but reinforcing qualities that will last a lifetime. Be fearless in the pursuit of your families happiness. Someday, they will thank you for showing them what it means to put aside personal feelings, and do what needs to be done for the people you love.

The Working Mother: Labor After Labor

Being a mother is often considered the hardest job there is. The constant care, sleepless nights and physical strain would be enough to make any reconsider the stresses of their own work. But how do you juggle the full-time job of caring for your children and working for a living? This delicate balancing act is being performed by women all over the globe, and it’s not an easy one. While certain workplaces afford you the ability to manage your own schedule, far too many women are not as in control of their own workday. Leaving them to manage what little time they have with the family to the best of their ability. Here are some quick ways a modern mom can manage the madness of her day.
Take advantage of your technology. With so many mobile services running the gamut from grocery delivery to remote control laundry, whatever time you can save while on the move must be taken advantage of. With the advent of remotely operated appliances, you could start any number of chores on the way home to save a few extra minutes for your family.
If you don’t have full control over your schedule, practice negotiating. A mom on the move needs to find help wherever she can. Whether that be squeezing a few spare moments out of her work schedule, or finding friends to help watch the family while at work, a positive negotiating attitude can mean the difference between suffering your schedule, and living with it.
Negotiating can help tremendously with finding assistance around the house or at work. If something needs doing and you haven’t the time, there are plenty of services that offer cheap help in your local area. TaskRabbit is a great way to handle mundane tasks for a minimal fee, and free up more time for the kids.
Being a working mother is far from easy. However, what some call a thankless job is anything but. A family needs a strong foundation to thrive, and compared to a working mother, nothing is stronger. An unshakeable warrior for her family, the working mom handles both positions with a poise and determination unmatched in today’s world.

Proverbs for a Busy Working Mom

Q&A About American Mothers

Erica Yitzak

American Moms are far different today than they were 100 years ago. Here are a few things that we know are different of today’s American mothers and how everything has changed over time.

1. What are American Mothers about?
In America, there are about 85 million mothers. Today, there are about a third of women from the ages 18-63 that have young children at home. In 1960, 52% did. Women are having children at a much later age than they used to. Today, the average age of a first time mother is 25.8 compared to 21.4 in 1970.

Another fact is that the marital status of mothers has changed as well. In 1960, nearly all mothers with young children were married, compared to the 7 in 10 statistic today.

2. How many kids do they have?
Women who are in their forties and nearing the end of their child-bearing years: 1/3 has had two children, 19% have either had one or three and about 10% have had four or more children.

American mothers today have on average 1.9 children, compared to the 3.7 children in 1960.

3. How do American moms spend their time?
Today, moms work far more hours outside home and spend less time on housework than they did fifty years ago. Moms actually spend more time with their children than 5 years ago, and about twice as much as today’s fathers do. Dads todays pend much more time on housework and child care than the average amounts of the past, but they haven’t yet caught up to moms.

4. How many moms are working?
About 71% of mothers with children younger than the age of 18 were in the labor force, compared to less than half in 1975. Interestingly enough, mothers are actually staying at home more since 1999.

Moms these days are actually providing more for their families than they ever have. About 2/3rds of these breadwinner mothers are single moms.

Americans today still have mixed views about he ideal situation for raising a family and work-life balance.

5. How do moms feel about the job they’re doing raising their kids?
Moms still feel that they do not spend enough time with their kids, even though the amount of time has significantly increased over the years. three quarters of moms give themselves high ratings on their parenting skills, as working mothers are particular likely to give themselves a good rating as well.

The Not So Super Nanny Review

Erica Yitzhak Knows how hard it is to find good help

Erica Yitzhak Knows how hard it is to find good help

While scouring the internet looking for “Nanny Nightmare” stories I was able to stumble upon an article written by Katie Wallace entitled “The Not So Super Nannies” and her experience on trying to find the right nanny to fit in with her family to take care of her newborn child. She talks about how she “wanted Mary Poppins to float down from the sky and land on my doorstep” with an offer that she thought she couldn’t refuse, allowing her to return to the workforce much sooner than she had anticipated.

Katie tried to stay a step ahead in the game, by trying to get a plan in place while she was pregnant with her child in the summer. She realized that she was going to not be able to get her kid into the top day-care centers in Los Angeles, so she enlisted the help of her mother and three agencies to try to find the right nanny for her kids. During her two-week mad quest, she interviewed dozens of candidates before finally deciding to narrow her choice down to one nanny.

Preparing to offer the candidate the job, Katie asked her if there was anything she might like in the house as far as snacks are concerned. The candidate had something different in mind, giving her a full on grocery list that included  “Sanka coffee, white bread, frozen waffles, Lucky Charms, etc,” (Wallace, The Not-So-Super Nannies). But that isn’t all. The agency that put the candidate up informed Katie that the nanny has had a DUI in the previous months. They mentioned it because they do not screen potential clients until after they are about to be hired. In trying to cover their own skin, the agency claimed that the nanny was very “very forthcoming with us. She told us right from the start,” (Wallace, The Not-So-Super Nannies). If that was the verdict, why didn’t they inform her until after she was ready to hire her? Seems a little fishy to me.

Katie, understandably, was really peeved that the agency withheld this important information and didn’t bother to tell her about it. She makes a great point that it wasn’t like the incident happened when she was young and immature, but only happened a few months prior, and this was someone that she was going to trust to take care of her newborn son. She wrestled with this decision because it seemed like her son had already taken a liking to her, but Katie went with her gut instincts and decided to not hire her.

Tales of Negligent Caretakers

Erica Yitzhak Sad Child

Sad Child

While searching the web I have run into a slew of horror stories about nannies that will shock you. It’s always nerve-racking to leave your child in the care of someone else, but after these stories you will think twice about who you are letting raise and care for you child. These stories of law-breaking, abusive and negligent caretakers explain why it is a scary world out there. And these nannies were caught red handed in the act.

A North Carolina mother hired a nanny after her twins were prematurely born and not healthy enough to go into daycare. Upon hiring the nanny, Lindsay Addison installed a hidden nanny cam that was disguised as a clock to monitor her children while she was at work. But what she ended up seeing was disgusting. The hired nanny was seen loosely carrying the 7-month-olds under her arms, letting them dangle upside down. The nanny was fired immediately and was charged with two counts of child abuse. The said nanny eventually entered an Alford plea in court, which “does not admit guilt but acknowledges that there was enough evidence to convict her of the charges.”

In Jacksonville, Florida, parents of two toddlers decided to install a nanny cam in their after coming home and finding one of the two toddlers had a black eye. The nanny at the time said that she could not explain where the black eye had come from. The Jacksonville parents decided to fire their nanny of two years and later watched the tape from the nanny cam. What they saw was disturbing to say the least. The parents watched in horror as they saw the nanny picked up and slung their child into the playpen, was hit in the face with a ball, slapped, hit with a towel, swatted at and kicked. Luckily the child only received a bruise and a split lip. The nanny was sentenced to 8 years in prison.